When people are sure-hearted
I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love — when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them.
Finding love
If you want to be loved, find something you love. People can sense it when you have something you’re dedicated to.
Be sure of yourself
When you’re unsure of yourself, it’s easy to be obsessed with the idea of love — the idea that happiness will arrive when someone else loves you. This can lead to you ignoring your own life.
When you don’t get love
The difference is that it won’t matter so much, because you already have something to pour your love into, something that nourishes you. So you don’t have to spend your time watching everyone else to see if they glance towards you and deign to bestow their love.
Discomfort and uncertainty
You have so much within you. Pay attention to it. Pay attention to your feelings of discomfort and uncertainty — watch yourself as you think and feel.
Choose your art
Later she encourages Cass to “Choose your art, practice your art, always, always choose your art over and above anything else. If you can’t do that, then you have — what, a few more years?”
Love is repetition
See how strong you become when you remember that love is just reassertation, choosing something over and over. Do it one more time & watch mundane repetition become something transcendent.